Are We Deceiving the Children?

Where did we get this concept that summers are a time of living carefree? You know, those lazy, hazy days of summer?

These long days of summer are to be enjoyed, but this mentality of 3 months of doing nothing but fun in the sun is wrong.

Summers should actually be our busiest time. This is the time to sow, weed, water and harvest.

Back in the agricultural days kids took a break from “school” to be able to help work the family fields and farms. They understood the work that it took to keep everyone alive.

Now do I think we should all be farmers? NO!

Do I want to be a farmer? Not necessarily.

Am I against vacations and celebrations? NO!

Do I think children should work long hard days like an adult? ABSOLUTELY NOT!

What I am against is deceiving children into thinking that childhood is all about frolicking from one child centered activity to another. That summers are all about being at the pool or laying for hours in front of a screen becoming brain-numb.

During this break from the usual school routine we should be giving them opportunities to grow in areas of new skills and responsibilities.

Depending on their maturity, by the age of 14-15 they should be working some sort of summer job, even if it is for a family member.

If it’s not possible for a summer job they should be learning some skills to help them become knowledgeable adults. Let them spend some time with someone who is good with a hammer, or small engine repair, or someone who is exceptionally good at cooking or photography… the list is endless. Think of skills that could make them money as they grow older.

Let them learn how to grow something, even if it is just one thing. Even if they fail at it big time they can learn from their mistakes and do better next time.

This idea that when summer gets here we throw off the shackles of responsibility and REAL LIFE is just crazy.

They have got to understand that they are a very important part of the family. They have to contribute in any way they can. No one feels like a part of the team if they don’t get to play on the field. Let your kids be a team player, on the most important team…. their FAMILY!

Don’t set your kids up for a miserable life dreading the grown up world, dreading the daily grindstone of work. Instilling a bad attitude about life, about work and about purpose is not loving your child. You are setting them up for failure.

Where to Start?

Slowly, from the time they are 2 and 3 years old teach them that responsibility, doing their duty is expected and appreciated. This starts with simple things such as, “Pick up that toy.” Followed by a big smile and applause. Their attitude will most likely reflect your attitude! Here is a list of age appropriate chores.

Every six months or so their responsibility in the home should increase. Teach them how to do more and give them new duties while maintaining the old ones. In time they will improve on their ability to do it efficiently… and correctly.

Ignite the need to know more. Between Pinterest, Google, YouTube, friends, neighbors and family there really isn’t much you can’t learn.

Equip them with knowledge.

Require responsibility and productivity while they are young so when the time comes for them to fly from your nest they will soar high! Don’t be the one responsible for clipping their wings.

Yes, we go to the pool, and the splash pad and other fun summer outings. We also balance those occasional activities with what is needful and wise. Just to save the haters time in writing about what a horrible mother I am.

The Results of Poor Management

Whether it be in business, finances, churches or even the home, if there is poor management it is obvious.

A poorly managed business will lack quality and customer service all while the bottom-line of profits disappear. A poorly run business will eventually go bankrupt.

Good management will reflect in the attitude of the employees, product and profit. It is a business that will grow, meet needs and evolve with changing times.

A poorly managed church will lack harmony and fruit. The members will look to man, programs and their own works to build its membership. There will be constant strife and church splits. Their budgets and people will be exhausted or complacent.

Godly leadership will humbly lead its members in Biblical holiness and not measure growth in numbers or programs, but rather in spiritual fruit and loving their neighbor.

Poorly managed finances will lead to debt, discontentment and chaos. This will almost always lead to relationship problems on every level.

A well managed budget will make the most of every penny to multiply it and use it to serve others while remembering we are stewards of God’s money.

And now the point of this post.

A poorly managed home will lack order, peace, love and beauty.

This will be a home where people want to flee rather than gather, rest or work.
It is usually a home of angry and disconnected people.
It is a home that does not meet the needs of its family or neighbors.

A well managed home is not a place of perfection nor problem free, but rather a place where there is a good manager and love abides.

A well managed home is where people know their duty and are trained to do their duty well. Skills and attitude are important!

A well managed home is where love covers a multitude of sin and grace abounds, while also holding each other accountable.

A well managed home will equip its people to go out and be honest and hard working … doers of good.

A well managed home is a place where its people can come to rest and be recharged. They are recharged and challenged to get up and face the next day’s tasks.

What to know what is really cool?

Homes that are managed well will raise up its people to establish more homes that are well managed…

which will be reflected in the churches…

communities…

and workplace.

It is a glorious and victorious cycle!

It truly does begin at home…

a well managed home.

The problem is, its difficult to manage a home when the heart is divided and we lose sight of what we are commanded to do. (Titus 2:5, 1 Timothy 5:14)

Sometimes it is a heart going astray and being distracted by the promise of wealth or acknowledgment, rarely do these happen in the home. Most Americans don’t truly value a well managed home, if we did more women would take it seriously and train up their children to do the same.

Sometimes it is a lack in training our children or the lack of follow through… don’t expect what you don’t inspect! (Raising my hand on this one.)

Sometimes it is a lack of training in ourselves, whether it be in skills or self-control. Most of us spent our childhood away from home most of the day and were not given proper responsibilities growing up so when we got our own houses we were at a loss of what to do.

Sometimes it is PURE LAZINESS. We don’t want to take the responsibility to manage our home, train the children, be frugal, plan meals, give love, show forgiveness, resolve conflicts, etc…

Good home management is

HARD WORK!

Confession: I become angry when things start to spin out of control in the house. This is when I start to point out where everyone else is failing, where the chores are not being done, where people just seem not to care, I can be a first class martyr.

BUT the reality is… they are failing because I HAVE FAILED, I have failed in my management of the home. This is when the nagging begins. There is no love in nagging and strife.

Ways to Manage Our Homes Better

Clear the Calendar of Clutter

Seriously, this is the most important thing you can do. Get out of everything that is not absolutely necessary. Get out of activities that divide the family on a regular basis. Yes, there are seasons of unexpected crisis, family celebrations (weddings, births, etc…) and short term sports teams, we need to allow flexibility for those kinds of things. But if you spend the majority of your life jumping from one activity to another and neglecting the harmony of the home you are doing more harm than good and you are bringing shame ( blaspheme) on the word of God. (Titus 2:5)

Clear the Home of Clutter

Less is more if you are struggling with orderliness and cleanliness. The less you have to take care of, the more time you will have to keep it orderly. This also frees you up to do more purposeful and even fun things!

Kids do not need a ton of toys. And none of us need closets packed with clothes… keep it simple. Will people remember you for what you wore and the car you drove or will they remember how you loved God and cared for others? Don’t let your stuff be a burden.

Clear the Heart of Clutter

Don’t worry about keeping up with the Jones’ or Pinterest. Find your own style, be productive, serve people. Seek ye first the Kingdom of God.

Get Enlightened, Equipped and Encouraged!

Know Who you are working for, even when no one else notices! Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not men. Ephesians 6:7
Know your duty, do your duty.
Read good homemaking books.
Learn organization, shopping and cleaning skills, then teach it to your children.
Make friends with other women who love being homemakers.
Consider your home’s atmosphere as of the family’s oxygen.
Remember your home is just as important as any mission base in any country.

If you are busy managing your home and looking out for the welfare of those God brings to you, you won’t have time to do all the things that rob you of your time, peace, productivity and joy.

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“…to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.” Titus 2:5

“So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander.” 1 Timothy 5:14

“A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest and poverty will come on you like a bandit and scarcity like an armed man.” Proverbs 6: 10-11

“She is loud and wayward; her feet do not stay at home…” Proverbs 7:11

THIS is How You Teach Skill and Confidence

Last Saturday morning Jeff and I, along with my mother and grandmother who are visiting for a couple of months, received these special invitations on the piano.

Olivia and the children went shopping and when they got home they required us to stay in a bedroom for a few hours. So I piled up on the bed with the laptop and made the best of the afternoon.

THEY WERE SO EXCITED as they worked!

They pushed the furniture back and set up two tables. The lights were low with lots of candles. Each table had it’s own waiter. They were a class act!

Olivia assigned each of the kids some jobs allowing them to do about 80% of the work so it could be “their thing”.

Even a 4 year old can do a lot in the kitchen. Just like everyone else they want to feel like they are an important part of the team (family). They NEED to be given responsibilities and opportunities to serve.

The food, under Olivia’s watchful eye and teaching spirit, was AMAZING!

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The food was as good, if not better than what we’ve had in restaurants. It helps when you live with a personal chef.

It was a beautiful evening, candle light, Sinatra and Buble , steaks, creamed potatoes, steamed broccoli, yeast rolls, strawberry cobbler and the sweetest, happiest, most attentive servants.

Our chefs and servers.

It helped that they had the best leader and teacher who gave her day to clean house and add special lighting in my bedroom so Jeff and I could have some alone time to watch a movie after dinner.

She taught them how to serve with excitement and joy by serving with joy herself.

THIS is how you teach. You do it by example, you let the weaker ones work alongside you so one day they will be strong in servant-hood.

This is how you equip them with skill, confidence and a servant heart.

They will not learn how to do things, nor will they WANT to do things if you are always pushing them aside because you think they are not able… or they make too many messes… or they slow you down.

They will always remember this special evening, as will we.

“As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another,

as good stewards of God’s varied grace;”

1 Peter 4:10

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What would you do if all the money was gone?

Some of you may have been there before.

Some of you may be there now.

Some of you hope to never be there.

It’s the place when hard financial times hit. They may come from an un-expected catastrophe or maybe from job loss. These situations can empty your savings before you know it and leave you questioning the future… questioning everything.

So how do you respond?

How do you prepare for these times?

My grandmother grew up in the depression, she knew hard times. Many of us would roll our eyes or give her a hard time with good humor as she continued to live the rest of her life as if she was still in the depression.

She will use and re-use… and often re-use everything!

If she uses a paper towel to wipe up some water, she’d lay it out to dry because she can re-use it. Aluminum foil last her a looooong time! And one tea bag will get through a whole day!

She would save anything and everything… because you never know when you may need it.

And she would never pay for anything that she could do for herself. And if she couldn’t do it, she’d just just do without it most of the time.

She could take a bone and a few scraps of veggies and make the best tasting soup.

How she lives and how we live is such a contrast. We are such a foolish and wasteful generation and I fear that we will come full circle due to our complacency and pride.

None of us can be totally financially secure. You can have lots of safety-nets, but none of them are foolproof. All of them can be pulled out from underneath you in a short amount of time.

I’m NOT saying we should live in fear, but I am saying is:

Our trust is in the Lord, not in our bank accounts and degrees. EVERY thing that happens to us is for our good, even when it does not feel good.
We have a responsibility to be skilled. We need to know how to do things. We need to be able to work with our hands.
We need to know how to truly be resourceful. Stewardship is a huge part of a person’s character.
We need to be content with a more simple life. Consider how much time and money is wasted on things that are not really needed.

How to be More Skilled

Tackle 2 or 3 Skills a Year

Learn how to cut hair.
Cook from scratch. (Video tips here.) Get serious about grocery budgeting! Make all your own cakes rather than buy them.
Learn to grow a garden. This takes years to learn, just start out with one or two things a year. Research what grows well in your area.
Basic sewing skills. Start now and you can make a quilted throw for every family member from scraps for next Christmas.
Learn to preserve food when you grow it or buy it at a great price.
Plant fruit trees or berry bushes and learn to take good acre of them. This is free food for the future.
Winterize your home.
Learn to hunt and dress your game.
Raise chickens or rabbits.
Learn to buy things such as lumber at a reduced prices to used for repairs or to build things to sell.
Change your own oil in your car.
Learn to barter.

There are so many things we could learn to reduce our spending and dependence on the monetary economy.

Pictures from Our Work-cation

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A few weeks ago our family, and Emma and Josh, took a work-cation.

A work-cation is where you go somewhere and it is partly work, and partly vacation. Basically the work part of it pays for the vacation part of it.

Josh’s mom needed some work done to her house, and he being the good and faithful son he is wanted to do it for her. (((Girls, look for a guy that is good to his mom - he’ll be most likely be good to YOU!)))

Josh knew he’d need some help so he and his mom invited ALL OF US to come down to the beach, all expenses paid! We stayed at her house and she spoiled all of us, especially our kiddos!

This trip was especially special because our little kids had never been to the beach, they have never seen the ocean. They’ve actually never been anywhere.

I LOVE this picture!

This was the first morning of our work-cation. Josh’s mom made a huge breakfast for us and the work crew. There were a few men from her church who came to help. These men were amazing! Kind, FUNNY and willing to work. This is what men are suppose to do. They are suppose to come along side and help those in need. This is how others will know we belong to God, that we have love for one another. All of these men worked as a labor of love, not for money. It was beautiful!

But what I REALLY LOVE about this picture is that this little 8 year old boy that God plucked out of a wicked home life of crime, drugs, neglect and homosexuality is now entrusted to us and surrounded by Godly men that know the importance of being a MAN… a good man!

He is learning how to work and how to be honest. He is learning skills that will equip him to not only provide for himself, but skills that will also bless others.

The best way for this little boy to become a man of integrity is to be with men of integrity.

What grace and mercy has been poured out on this simple, unworthy family of mine. This picture represents so many answered prayers that were years prayed for; Jeff being self-employed, more children/adoption, and a Godly spouse for our daughter!

And then there is this sweet, precious girl. She is an indoor type of girl (much like me).

But she knew she was on a mission, on a mission to bless Josh’s mom and to help her dad! One thing for sure about Cherish, she will step up and do what needs to be done… no matter what!

She was excited to put her math skills to real use.

But she was MOST excited to be her dad’s helper!

She was his number runner. He’d measure and she’d run the numbers to (pregnant) Emma and she would cut the wood, then she’d run the piece of wood back to Dad! It was a great system!

And even Peachy-girl had things to do!

Everyone wants to feel like they are a part of the team.

Everyone wants to feel needed and important. Here she is filling Josh’s nail pouch with nails… that’s important and helpful work!

Something as simple as handing screws is a big help!

Things as simple as holding boards, or fetching a hammer is a huge help!

This work-cation was a LOT of work, but it was good work. I was so proud of the kids good attitude. They never complained and were so willing to work… to serve Josh and his mom. I was so proud of the men folk being patient with the kids, letting them be a part of the mission and teaching them along the way.

Attitude is the most important part of any job!

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Relationships were strengthened. Character was refined.

It was a JOY to watch Emma come along side and be major help to her husband!

This girl was raised to be faithful. She is not afraid to get get dirty and do what needs to be done. And to think my little baby granddaughter in the womb is up on that ladder too, her mom already setting the pace for her. I am so proud of the kind of wife Emma is becoming!

And this one… he’s MINE! He sets the pace for the rest of us… always leading the way!

This was the morning we left our labor of love very grateful for the opportunity.

Although it was chilly some of the days there, we were able to hot the beach few times.

The water was cold… but that didn’t stop them!

It was so beautiful!

This picture pretty much sums up the beach adventure. The boy ready to take on anything… no fear, Cherish enjoying a little of everything and Peach staying close where it was safe!

Emma 25 weeks pregnant!

Jeff was able to break away from his work for a couple hours one day. He’s not the beach type…note the work boots… haha… but he went none the less.

He showed them the right way to build a sand castle and took a stroll with me… for him that is a vacation!

This was a work-cation we’ll never forget.

Counting our blessings!!!

btw… Olivia stayed home to take care of the animals and other responsibilities, with her it would have been prefect!

So Where Do We Start?

I received many private emails in response to last week’s post, I challenge you….

A few emails had the same questions like the one I received from “Mandy”, she has given me permission to share her email with all of you.

” Homeschooling my 3 kids and keeping home and managing the finances keeps my days full. I just… found out that the place my husband works is closing. We are just trying to keep our heads above water. I do try to be an encouragement to other moms in our homeschool group, but we neither have the space (very tiny house), the time, or the money to have people in our home.

I didn’t grow up doing the things you are talking about so I don’t really know how to teach it to my kids. I have no older woman near me who takes an interest in disciplining me so I can learn these things. My family is nowhere near me.

What is someone in my situation supposed to do? I feel I can’t help an orphan, a widow, minister to my family, and we are trying to find a good church home so I’m not serving in that area right now.

I love what you are saying but don’t know how to make it practical in my life.”

Thank you Mandy for being so honest! I do think these are very common situations for many families.

First, let me say, I was not raised to do any of the things I am doing now. By God’s grace I have learned as I went along, I still have a long ways to go! The important thing is to just start where you are…one baby step at a time.

The reason why so many people are in this place is very simple, yet it has such a wide and all-encompassing ramification! Our culture, even among Christians, has lost it’s sense of community.

For decades we (as a whole) have lived individually. We bought the lie that it is all about us… we need to be all we can be, keeping the focus on US. We live as if we don’t need each other. This is not God’s best for us!

Combine the “it’s all about me” mentality, with separating the family for the majority of the day, which damages many relationships, and then throw in a dose of “keeping up with the Jones” and we end up with a bunch of hurting, confused, frustrated and ineffective people who are just trying to survive… by themselves!

Very Few People Have a Family Community

As a whole we push our kids to “find themselves” at all cost, especially at the cost of family relationships and family finances. Because WE PUSH THEM OUT, to be more and to do more, it is easy, almost natural for them to fly far from the nest as soon as they can.

You can not have a family community if you are not close to each other, investing in each other on a regular basis. It is the sharing in the joys and burdens of life that binds our hearts together. In our culture if you live near family you are considered back-woods, cousin-marrying rednecks. Or you are viewed as having control issues. How sad this is!

We want to stand on our own two feet, not needing anyone and we are VERY selective in how much we are willing to give of ourselves to others. And, yes, we should strive to be self-sufficient, but at the same time we need to be living in family community.

WHY in the world do we have nursing homes full of people? Because the family community is broken down, everyone is trying to keep their head above water and can not afford to take care of grandma.

But if a widow has children or grandchildren, let them first learn to show godliness to their own household and to make some return to their parents, for this is pleasing in the sight of God. 1 Timothy 5:4

The average American family is deep in debt, with broken marital vows and disconnected children searching for purpose in life. Our push for material comfort has actually put a strangle hold on our culture.

We all know things are a mess, but what are we willing to do to make the changes? Are we willing to sacrifice, even if it means living with less or even being ridiculed by family and friends? How serious are we about redeeming the culture and seeking first the Kingdom of God?

So Where Do We Start?

For women, our families are our top priority! Meeting the needs of our husband is our number one calling, it is above EVERY THING else! And for some women, being the helper for her husband is all she can do. He may be demanding, or sickly, or whatever. If this is the man you are married to, he is your mission field, treat him that way!!! WHY are marriages falling apart like crazy? Because most women live with a individualistic worldview.

GET THIS!!!

For many of us, our biggest work, our life long mission is to reclaim family life the way God designed it to be. We need to be laying a foundation for future generations to build on. We will be spending most of our lives breaking the cycle of narcissism and materialism.

It is up to us to be living proof, that living sacrifice (Romans 12), to proclaim God’s truth by first establishing a family community. Once the family is united and equipped, THEN we can go out to our neighbors…and all the nations. For some of us, the going out to minister to others may not come to be in our lifetime, but that of our children and grandchildren. Hopefully we will lay the groundwork for them and they can go further than we ever dreamed.

For those of you that you feel like your hands are tied and you can not go serve as you want, first reach out where you are, right in your family. It WILL BE the most exhausting, humbling and frustrating mission work you will do.

You will be met with resistance, ingratitude and very…VERY slow growing fruit, but it is where God has you. You MUST first build up your house (Proverbs 14:1) so that it will stand, for what good is it to ‘save the world’ if your own house/family community crumbles?

Remember There are Seasons

There are times when you will be investing tons of time in your marriage or children. Every season brings new challenges and blessings. As your children grow older you will see that they need less physical investment and MUCH MORE emotional and spiritual investment. They NEED you to be all there, to advise and encourage, and be sure you have the Biblical wisdom to advise correctly.

There will be seasons that you can do more outside your home, make the most of it when it comes!

If you have spent your life laying a sound foundation, building family relationships and encouraging a family community, which means you have to live near your people, then there will come a season where you can reach out more. And what joy there will be when we can be a blessing to our grandchildren and elderly parents.

Home missions is not be pretty, or even recognized by most, but it will bring much glory to your Father.

As we work hard at reclaiming family life from the ground up we have to first change the way we view God, family and missions.

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Focus on Making Home Pleasant

This is HUGE. If you want to create a family community, then you must make home a pleasant (NOT perfect) place to be. This does not mean a beautifully decorated home. This means a home where mom smiles and looks on the bright side of things, as she points her loved ones to Christ. It means that mom is more concerned about the heart of matters than the legalities of issues, it is where forgiveness and grace abound!

Do NOT make your house a classroom. Being a teacher is not more important than being Mom. Yes, instill a love for learning, but don’t be so focused on academics that you can not enjoy daily life.

Make one night of the week, or if that is too much, make one night of the month a special meal time. Use a table cloth and glasses to drink from. Let the kids make place settings and table decorations according to the season. Slowly start making meal time something pleasant. Help direct conversation in positive ways, saying words of encouragement to each person.

Play soft relaxing music. Music is powerful!!!

Use soft lighting.

You make them remember the good times!

Make your family want to come home! Kind words, pleasant aromas, smiles, hugs, laughter, walks, bike ride, card games, cooking contests … What kind of mom will they say you were?

THIS home ministry is HUGE!

Never Underestimate Encouragement

Simply saying kind words not only to your family, but to others you encounter does brighten a day. Make it your mission to start a pleasant, yet brief, conversation with the cashier when you get groceries. Speak to someone at church you don’t normally speak to. Your children will watch you do this and they will one day follow your lead.

Make a habit of sending a letter, or even a card with a few brief lines of encouragement to someone. Think of people from your past you’d like to thank for investing in your life. Encourage a church or civil leader for their work. The written word is powerful! This is a must read for letter/card sending.

A simple plate of cookies to your librarian, emergency workers or postal workers with a note of “Thank You” is a great way to bless others.

Be Aware and Ready

You may not have money to give but you can find ways to organize giving.

Your family can organize a shoe drive, or a jacket drive for local needy children, or the homeless.

Is there a family in your area adopting? You can organize a fundraiser or help someone else that is organizing an event.

Is there an elderly person that could use their yard cleaned up, or their windows washed? Could you offer to do their grocery shopping when you do your shopping?

Are there shut-in’s in your area that just need someone to sit and talk with them for an hour or two a week?

Nursing homes ALWAYS need people to visit, especially with young children to brighten their days!

Use your handiwork skills to crochet shawls for the elderly, or baby hats for the hospitals.

Use your cake decorating skills to make birthday cakes for local children’s homes or foster kids.

Ask God to bring opportunities to you. You won’t be giving and doing every single day, but if you have the mindset of wanting to serve, opportunities will come.

Most of all, how are you building your family community?

Are you pushing your children to grow up and move on for the sake of material gain? Or are you encouraging them to stay in their community, their family community and church community?

Are you teaching them how to trust in God or are you full of anxiety and fear?

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The Most Skilled Deficient Generation- Ever!

Why They Get On My Nerves -Part 2: Child Training

After posting yesterday about why my kids, my husband and the housework get on my nerves, I felt like there needed to be a follow up post about another aspect of this.

This part is mainly about the children, those sweet precious gifts from God, that were also born with a sin nature, just like we were.

These kiddos (just like me) need to be taught and trained, taught what is right and wrong, and then trained to do the right thing, regardless of what they want to do.

Whether it be from laziness or busyness, or maybe even ignorance, many parents will not teach and train their children.

Many will allow their homes to be child centered homes, homes where the children are pacified with TV, computers, music, friends, etc… They require very little out of their children concerning responsibility or conduct. They are happy to keep them busy and out of their hair so they won’t be bothered.

Some child centered homes are homes where parents work themselves to death to make sure Johnny can be all he can be. He has every gadget, is involved in every activity so he can be popular and ‘well rounded’, all while they neglect the importance of HOME life, a life full of responsibility. These children usually grow up with a lousy work ethic and poor stewardship of what has literally been handed to them.

When we don’t train our children concerning responsibilities (house hold chores) and conduct (behavior and manners) it will cause us to become frustrated and impatient with them. They will grow older and get on our nerves because we failed in our responsibility of training.

What are you doing that is more important than teaching and training your children? If you don’t do it, who will? Don’t count on the schools or their peers, don’t even count on your church, it is YOUR job!

We need Christ centered homes. Home that are built on the foundation of the Gospel. Homes were we learn to obey God, live by grace, serve others, work hard and honor parents.

Why They (kids/husband/housework) Get On My Nerves - Part 1