Teaching Good Things

Practical Skills for Real Life

Teaching Good Things - Practical Skills for Real Life

The Results of Poor Management

Whether it be in business, finances, churches or even the home, if there is poor management it is obvious.

A poorly managed business will lack quality and customer service all while the bottom-line of profits disappear. A poorly run business will eventually go bankrupt.

Good management will reflect in the attitude of the employees, product and profit. It is a business that will grow, meet needs and evolve with changing times.

A poorly managed church will lack harmony and fruit. The members will look to man, programs and their own works to build its membership. There will be constant strife and church splits. Their budgets and people will be exhausted or complacent.

Godly leadership will humbly lead its members in Biblical holiness and not measure growth in numbers or programs, but rather in spiritual fruit and loving their neighbor.

Poorly managed finances will lead to debt, discontentment and chaos. This will almost always lead to relationship problems on every level.

A well managed budget will make the most of every penny to multiply it and use it to serve others while remembering we are stewards of God’s money.

And now the point of this post.

A poorly managed home will lack order, peace, love and beauty.

  • This will be a home where people want to flee rather than gather, rest or work.
  • It is usually a home of angry and disconnected people.
  • It is a home that does not meet the needs of its family or neighbors.

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A well managed home is not a place of perfection nor problem free, but rather a place where there is a good manager and love abides.

A well managed home is where people know their duty and are trained to do their duty well. Skills and attitude are important!

A well managed home is where love covers a multitude of sin and grace abounds, while also holding each other accountable.

A well managed home will equip its people to go out and be honest and hard working … doers of good.

A well managed home is a place where its people can come to rest and be recharged. They are recharged and challenged to get up and face the next day’s tasks.

What to know what is really cool?

Homes that are managed well will raise up its people to establish more homes that are well managed…

which will be reflected in the churches…

communities…

and workplace.

It is a glorious and victorious cycle!

It truly does begin at home…

a well managed home.

 

The problem is, its difficult to manage a home when the heart is divided and we lose sight of what we are commanded to do. (Titus 2:5, 1 Timothy 5:14)

Sometimes it is a heart going astray and being distracted by the promise of wealth or acknowledgment, rarely do these happen in the home. Most Americans don’t truly value a well managed home, if we did more women would take it seriously and train up their children to do the same.

Sometimes it is a lack in training our children or the lack of follow through… don’t expect what you don’t inspect! (Raising my hand on this one.)

Sometimes it is a lack of training in ourselves, whether it be in skills or self-control. Most of us spent our childhood away from home most of the day and were not given proper responsibilities growing up so when we got our own houses we were at a loss of what to do.

Sometimes it is PURE LAZINESS. We don’t want to take the responsibility to manage our home, train the children, be frugal, plan meals, give love, show forgiveness, resolve conflicts, etc…

Good home management is

HARD WORK!

Confession: I become angry when things start to spin out of control in the house. This is when I start to point out where everyone else is failing, where the chores are not being done, where people just seem not to care, I can be a first class martyr.

BUT the reality is… they are failing because I HAVE FAILED, I have failed in my management of the home. This is when the nagging begins. There is no love in nagging and strife.

Ways to Manage Our Homes Better

  • Clear the Calendar of Clutter

Seriously, this is the most important thing you can do. Get out of everything that is not absolutely necessary. Get out of activities that divide the family on a regular basis. Yes, there are seasons of unexpected crisis, family celebrations (weddings, births, etc…) and short term sports teams, we need to allow flexibility for those kinds of things. But if you spend the majority of your life jumping from one activity to another and neglecting the harmony of the home you are doing more harm than good and you are bringing shame ( blaspheme) on the word of God. (Titus 2:5)

  • Clear the Home of Clutter

Less is more if you are struggling with orderliness and cleanliness. The less you have to take care of, the more time you will have to keep it orderly. This also frees you up to do more purposeful and even fun things!

Kids do not need a ton of toys. And none of us need closets packed with clothes… keep it simple. Will people remember you for what you wore and the car you drove or will they remember how you loved God and cared for others? Don’t let your stuff be a burden.

  • Clear the Heart of Clutter

Don’t worry about keeping up with the Jones’ or Pinterest. Find your own style, be productive, serve people. Seek ye first the Kingdom of God.

Get Enlightened, Equipped and Encouraged!

  • Know Who you are working for, even when no one else notices! Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not men. Ephesians 6:7
  • Know your duty, do your duty.
  • Read good homemaking books.
  • Learn organization, shopping and cleaning skills, then teach it to your children.
  • Make friends with other women who love being homemakers.
  • Consider your home’s atmosphere as of the family’s oxygen.
  • Remember your home is just as important as any mission base in any country.

If you are busy managing your home and looking out for the welfare of those God brings to you, you won’t have time to do all the things that rob you of your time, peace, productivity and joy.

 

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“…to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.” Titus 2:5

“So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander.” 1 Timothy 5:14

“A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest and poverty will come on you like a bandit and scarcity like an armed man.” Proverbs 6: 10-11

“She is loud and wayward; her feet do not stay at home…” Proverbs 7:11

What would you do if all the money was gone?

Some of you may have been there before.

Some of you may be there now.

Some of you hope to never be there.

It’s the place when hard financial times hit. They may come from an un-expected catastrophe or maybe from job loss. These situations can empty your savings before you know it and leave you questioning the future… questioning everything.

So how do you respond?

How do you prepare for these times?

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My grandmother grew up in the depression, she knew hard times. Many of us would roll our eyes or give her a hard time with good humor as she continued to live the rest of her life as if she was still in the depression.

She will use and re-use… and often re-use everything!

If she uses a paper towel to wipe up some water, she’d lay it out to dry because she can re-use it. Aluminum foil last her a looooong time! And one tea bag will get through a whole day!

She would save anything and everything… because you never know when you may need it.

And she would never pay for anything that she could do for herself. And if she couldn’t do it, she’d just just do without it most of the time.

She could take a bone and a few scraps of veggies and make the best tasting soup.

How she lives and how we live is such a contrast. We are such a foolish and wasteful generation and I fear that we will come full circle due to our complacency and pride.

None of us can be totally financially secure. You can have lots of safety-nets, but none of them are foolproof. All of them can be pulled out from underneath you in a short amount of time.

I’m NOT saying we should live in fear, but I am saying is:

  • Our trust is in the Lord, not in our bank accounts and degrees. EVERY thing that happens to us is for our good, even when it does not feel good.
  • We have a responsibility to be skilled. We need to know how to do things. We need to be able to work with our hands.
  • We need to know how to truly be resourceful. Stewardship is a huge part of a person’s character.
  • We need to be content with a more simple life. Consider how much time and money is wasted on things that are not really needed.

How to be More Skilled

Tackle 2 or 3 Skills a Year

There are so many things we could learn to reduce our spending and dependence on the monetary economy.

 

Economics 101… yard sales and hard earned money.

Today was another real life lesson in economics.

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The children had some money they had worked for and they were ready to hit the yard sales. They could only buy what they had money for, and Olivia made sure EVERYONE haggled for the lowest price! And if the seller would not come down Olivia wouldn’t let them buy it. ;)

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Peach scored some new shades for 50 cents! She lost her last pair so she had to replace them herself.

The boy replaced his neglected-puppy-chewed bike helmet for $1, this was AFTER I took him to Wal-Mart and showed him a new helmet would be $15!

And Cherish bought some new babies to care for.

Thankfully we didn’t come home with any of the baby pot belly pigs they found at one yard sale!

It was great ‘school day’!

 

It’s about what you can do!

 

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“Institutions of higher learning must move, as the historian Walter Russell Mead puts it, from a model of “time served” to a model of “stuff learned.” Because increasingly the world does not care what you know. Everything is on Google. The world only cares, and will only pay for, what you can do with what you know. . . . We’re moving to a more competency-based world where there will be less interest in how you acquired the competency — in an online course, at a four-year-college or in a company-administered class — and more demand to prove that you mastered the competency. . . “

Read the rest HERE.

Building a Family Economy - Mint

I recently set up a Mint account (it’s free). Mint brings all your financial accounts together online or on your mobile device, automatically categorizes your transactions, lets you set budgets and helps you achieve your savings goals. Although I know I am not using it to it’s full potential yet, I love it so far. It is a great free budgeting resource. Take an hour or two and set up an account. I’m going to have my older girls set up an account to help them learn more about budgeting.

Building a family economy is about managing what you have,

as much as it is trying to always make more!

 

A God-centered Health Care Plan- Samaritans Ministries

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Being self-employed makes buying insurance VERY expensive. A couple of years ago we decided to use Samaritan Ministries for our health care needs. Jeff is not on our family plan because he uses tobacco (cigars), so we carry a separate insurance policy for him, but our children and myself are on a family plan. The cost for Samaritans is much less than if we had to carry a normal health insurance policy. We pay $385 a month for all 5 of us. It would be the same price if Jeff were on it.

Samaritans is not insurance, but rather a Biblical alternative to health insurance.

Every month when I write out my check for $385, I write it to an individual person. Samaritans sends me a letter with a name and address of who I am suppose to send my ‘share’ to. They also tell what the medical issue is/was so we know how to pray for that person’s healing.

I LOVE the satisfaction of knowing that the money is going straight to a person and directly to their medical cost, rather than an insurance company whose goal is to make money!

I love that this is actually sharing the cost of medical bills of other Believers.

Even if we were wealthy I would still want to be a part of Samaritans because I believe that paying for medical care should not be big business, and insurance companies should not be influencing the cost of medical care as much as they do.

If you would like to know more about how Samaritans works, go here.

If you do choose to use them, please add my name as someone who referred you. ANOTHER great thing about Samaritans is that you get a cash credit toward your monthly share if someone enrolls using your name. How many ‘insurance’ companies do that?

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Family Life Makes Good Cents

A couple weeks ago I posted why I believe older kids should have to help pay their own way. Today I’d like to break down how we do a few things and the benefits of living as a family.

It is COST effective to live together and share:

Auto Insurance - Our adult children can be on our auto insurance as long as they live in our house. They pay their portion, which is a lot cheaper that getting their own.

Family Phone Plan - We have 5 phones on our plan, one belongs to my mother, who also lives here, we each pay a share and divide minutes. Our girls are allowed a smaller amount of minutes because they don’t ‘need’ as many, so they pay less. If they abuse the privilege of the family plan they are removed and can get their own plan and pay more!

Health Care - Our adult children can stay on our Samaritans Family plan until they are 22, as along as they live at home. Yes, they (over 18 years old) pay a portion of this.

Gym Membership - We can get 2 adults and 4 children (until age 22 or 23?) on one family plan. Our gym allowed my mother to be part of our family plan since she lives with us and is a senior. So we split the gym cost each month which comes out to about $18 a month each…can’t beat that!

Groceries - Sometimes our girls (16 and 20), will buy groceries needed for a special meal they want to prepare or for an event.

Rent - When our son lived at home he had to pay rent, a small amount each month to cover his room, meals, laundry, water, etc… This is called being a man! We do not require our girls to pay rent, but when they wanted a pool, they paid for the water to fill it, if they want things built in the yard for their domain they help pay for materials.

Vacation - We always share vacation expenses with our adult children, we usually pay the bulk of it, but they always chip in. When we take long trips they will offer to fill the tank once, or buy breakfast, etc… Our last trip our 19 year old paid for a separate room (one night) for her and her sister to make it more comfortable for all of us (Grandma was traveling with us too).

Saving for the Future - This is the perfect time for our older children to be saving and investing. Because they share expenses as a family it allows them to build up savings for their home one day.

It is TIME effective to live together and share:

Work Load/Chores - One of the greatest advantages of living as a family is that the more strong, skilled hands there are, the lighter the work load. When all of us are working in the yard it is amazing how fast things get done. When there are three of us cleaning this house at one time it is done in a flash, which leaves more time to ‘play’.

Trips and Outings - If one of us needs to go to the store we try to combine trips. I prefer to send a list and debit card and not go, I spend less money that way! ;o)

Education and Ministry - When adult children are still living at home and sharing expenses and responsibility, they have MUCH more freedom to focus on continuing their education (academically and skill wise) and searching out ways to minister to needs in the community. When one person has an apartment, paying rent and utilities, doing all the upkeep themselves, it really limits their time of learning, ministering and playing. :)

 

There is a LOT of give and take.

Because we live together as a family we have to be considerate of each other. This is not a hotel where people come and go and do as they please, we are a family. We let each other know where we are and what we are doing. When we make plans/spend money we have to consider how it will effect the family as a whole. Big decisions need to be discussed with Dad, house rules need to be honored.

Living as a family, even when the children are ‘of age’, is not always easy, it’s downright hard some days. Parents need to learn to let them be adults yet keep house rules and order in the home. It is a constant balancing act. Throw in a grandparent and it becomes even more tricky.

If your adult children are used to living as a family, used to considering others first, used to compromise and loving people, they will adjust to being married and parenting much easier than children that can’t wait until they are 18, to get out of the house and be totally independent. Most people that live by themselves, only seeking their own happiness and net gain for 10, 20, even 30 years will most likely have a hard time adjusting to living as a family.

Living as a family not only saves money, but it also brings safety, accountability, support, encouragement, sacrifice and LOVE.

 

Part 2:Family/Community Thinking