10.) She’s meek.

She’s powerful, but self controlled. But her whit and wisdom keep her power in check, she keeps a tight reign on her force. She understands that power restrained builds empires, where unleashed force can only destroy.

(Didn’t you see Frozen? Yeah, don’t let that go…)

9.) She has a plan.

She’s not out there living willy nilly, hoping that good things happen. She knows what she wants. She has goals, a vision and nothing is going to stop her. She has an in-writing, achievable timeline for getting what she wants.

8.) She doesn’t pine away.

Because she’s not some whimsical, weak, waif of a woman, bemoaning the fact that she’s single? Puh-leeease! First of all she’s too busy to stress over her ovaries and her hands are moving too quickly to find time to miss a ring. It’s not that she doesn’t want to get married, she’s just not going to be building Pinterest boards when there’s business to attend to.

7.) Her conscience is clear.

She’s not above admitting she’s wrong. She humbly and sincerely apologizes. As much as it depends on her, she lives at peace with people. But she doesn’t grovel or dwell on the situation after she’s done her part.

6.) She’s intimating.

Well, duh. She doesn’t need some over protective Dad with a shotgun threatening the boys away. She isn’t exactly low hanging fruit, any man willing to approach her is either worth his salt and is rewarded with her guarded attention or is gently, yet firmly… shot down. Oh, and she doesn’t play stupid. Ever.

5.) She’s not high maintenance.

She takes care of herself. This warrior woman usually ticks off her friends because she doesn’t have time for long phone chats, her threshold for drama is practically nonexistent.

4.) She laughs.

With the confidence of a fortune teller, she goes about her life knowing in the end… we win. Whatever current struggles or issues are drowning out the hope, she can walk away, knowing it is going to get better. She laughs because she has hope.

3.) She respects men.

Oooooo…. didn’t see that one coming? Because strong, independent women don’t need men, right? Wrong. She earns respect by giving it. She’s is treated like a lady because she allows men to treat her like one. Doors get opened for her because she waits a second for the man to get there first. Her opinion is valued, because she’s valued their opinion.

2.) She is never the victim.

In her head, she’s not the damsel in distress, she’s NEVER going to sit around waiting to be rescued. The world’s not out to get her. But if there is a negative influence in her life, someone or something trying to drag her down, she faces it head on. She calls people on their nonsense. She isn’t going to take anything laying down. You want to dance? Bring it. She won’t be the one curled up in defeat with a bottle of wine, posting anonymous pity parties on forums with other cowards. She’s a fighter, but more over she is an over comer and her revenge is simply in letting the issues go quickly and moving on with her amazing life.

1.) She always acts the lady.

She doesn’t need vulgar language, off color jokes or slutty clothes to attract attention or get a laugh out of people. Her reputation is well established as a fierce and fearless femina…

 

Written by Olivia Brodock, author of No More Wasted Years, and is a chef, peer counselor and board member at a local crisis pregnancy center, writer, missionary and visionary. She lives on beautiful Straight Mountain in North Alabama, where she attempts to carry out the Great Commission with her family.