I received this e-mail from a brokenhearted mom. Unfortunately, her problem is a common one. I always hesitate to advise in these situations because I’m only hearing one side. So let’s look at her situation from her point of view.
She writes:
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I agree with your comments about teaching your children worthwhile skills, teaching responsibility, and giving them the ability to be able to help others, and to value relationships. I have a problem/question. My husband thinks that relationship is all that matters, specifically his relationship with our children. Thus, he does not see a value in teaching our children anything, no life skills, no responsibility, no consistency, nothing. He just wants them to like and love him - doesn’t really matter if they love anyone else. He just wants to "have fun" and be entertained all the time. So when I say that it’s important that our kids be able to think for themselves, work hard, do their best, be responsible, take joy in helping others, etc…I am "mean" because I do have some expectations of them. They know that they do not really have to listen to any instructions that I give them, even simple ones like "clean up your room" because my husband does not enforce any rules (even the ones that he makes).
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