Teaching Good Things

Practical Skills for Real Life

Teaching Good Things - Practical Skills for Real Life

Why the Tears at Our Thanksgiving Table

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tears thanksgiving table

We had a very peaceful and low-key Thanksgiving Day, mainly because we celebrated last week and the week before! Josh and Emma were out of town, and my other Josh and family were with my daughter-in-law’s family, so it was just the 6 of us.

Everyone did their part making something. Peach was proud of her fruit salad.

Aaron made his first apple pie.

I even enlisted this bundle of energy to peel the potatoes, reminding him, ‘you don’t work you don’t eat’. ;)

Everyone was in a good mood and full of laughter. It truly was one of the most enjoyable meals we’ve ever had. As much as I love a table overflowing with people, sometimes it is more peaceful when it’s just us.

Peach brought our family table to utter silence Thanksgiving Day as she shared what she was thankful for. She rattled off all the usual, “I’m thankful for mom and dad, and Cherish, and….” Then she got real serious and said with all sincerity and an almost tearful expression, “I am thankful for my good life.” It was so raw, so real, almost surreal, and a hush fell across the table. As time goes on she is forgetting just how different her life is now compared to her first 2.5 years -by God’s grace.

Adoption is hard, not just for the kids, but for all of us, but it is so worth it. How many children are getting through the day with no food, or love or protection? How many children are sitting at tables filled with hatred or materialism?

Lord, may I never forget Your mercy towards me, You have given all of us a good life.

Then Jeff ended our time of sharing with grateful tears and words of love for his family and Savior, he has the most tender heart. It was just one of those very special moments, moments that Hallmark movies are made for. ;)

The Good Life - with Christ we do have the good life! He has rescued us from sin and for that we are grateful!

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Thanksgiving Tablescapes

Realistic tablescapes

I love a beautiful table. It says to your guest, “I have been preparing for YOU, YOU are important, YOU are wanted.”

I think about how Jesus has gone to prepare a place for us, we will also sit and dine at His feast. Can you imagine???

I love Pinterest and magazines that show decorating ideas, but especially tablescape ideas. As much as I love them, I know most of them are unrealistic for ordinary people like me. A limited budget, limited time and limited space in our little house really restricts what I can do with my table.

The important thing to remember is that we can all do something no matter what our budget is. It is the little touches that make people feel special, make then know they were planned for.

  • Try to add one or two little things to your table during your next feast. It can be as simple as a tablecloth and cloth napkins to some beautiful glasses, all of which can be bought at thrift stores or found in grandma’s cabinets.
  • A few candles, some fresh greens or wild flowers, and/or fruit goes a long way.
  • Keep your eye out for things at thrift stores, yard sales or even things you already have that can be spray painted to match your setting.

So here are a few ideas I have used in the past and a few others I have found online.

This year I made a pumpkin shaped cookie for each person’s place-setting at the Thanksgiving table. I piped their names on… pretty simple. Under the fork were the words to Oh God Beyond All Praising, which was glued to a brown paper. We sang this before we ate.

Although our house is small I was able to push the furniture back and set up two 6 foot tables. It was a tight fit but it worked for this year!

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How to Host a Thanksgiving Feast and Unit Study

Thanksgiving feast and unit study

Purpose: Fellowship, food, education in the form of an opportunity for our kids to research, study and prepare a presentation about the first Thanksgiving (public speaking skills). Their presentation does not have to be long, detailed or polished. This is a good starting point for the younger children, even if they only tell one fact.

2 Weeks Before Feast Day

Each family began their own unit study/research. Each child is asked to dress in character and present something they have learned; it can be a poem, a song, a reenactment, a speech, whatever they want.

Ways to document/incorporate their studies:

  • Make notes on your history timeline.
  • Make a binder or lapbook that can be added to each year.
  • Look on Pinterest for several good ideas for timelines, binders and lapbooks.
  • Look up quotes from William Bradford or others for copy-work.
  • Use words from your reading (or video research) for vocabulary and spelling.

Possible Topics:

  • Characters- William Bradford, King of England, Samoset, etc…
  • Natives or Pilgrims in General
  • The Mayflower
  • Food
  • Life Before the Pilgrims Came
  • Clothing
  • Education
  • Recreation (children’s games)
  • Worship/Faith
  • The Common House
  • How They Built Their Houses
  • Music of the Time - instruments/hymns
  • Weapons
  • Hunting
  • Agriculture

Resources

These are a few books and videos our family used for our research.

Books

Free Videos

YouTube is a great, just create a playlist before you have your children watch to avoid ‘trash’ showing up on the sidebar. This is the list I made, some are educational and some are just for fun. I will be adding to this as time goes on.

Costume Ideas

1 Week Before Feast Day

Plan a menu having each family bring a couple of things, whether you stick to an authentic early American meal or not. It is real interesting to learn what they did have and what they didn’t at that first gathering. Can you imagine “Thanksgiving” without mashed potatoes?

Here are a few pictures from our first annual feast. I hope we can build on it each year!

Olivia made these beautiful centerpieces for the tables.

We gathered several tables. Thankfully we had a gorgeous day!

Sweet friends!

It was hard to get pictures of the boys. They were busy building new settlements in the woods or playing football!

Our three!

A couple of our husbands lead a time of singing and worship.

The kids did great with their presentations.

A time for giving thanks for another baby on the way!

My girls!!!

6 month pregnant Emma!

How to Make Re-Usable Wooden Place-cards

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These place-cards are great for dinner parties.

Because they are made with chalkboard paint they are re-usable.

re-usable wood place-cards

Cut a hardwood tree branch at about 1/8 or 1/4 thick with a miter saw.

Make sure they are dry before you paint them.

Sand one side if you want to, but that is not necessary.

wood name tags

Use chalkboard paint (a quart goes a long way) and a small craft brush to paint on two coats, letting each coat dry completely.

I made these, tied them together, added chalk and they made a nice gift for friends who practice a lot of hospitality.

name tag

These were for a Christmas dinner party so I just tied a string on and hot glued a couple acorns on and slipped a small piece of greenery in. All can be removed for other occasions.

Dark Days and Thanksgiving

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Dark Days

We all go through dark days, those days that we feel like the cloud will never lift and there is no ray of hope breaking through.

Some days are darker than others.

Different situations bring dark days. Usually it’s situations out of our control but we are willing to do anything to change them, yet the Lord allows us to endure them a while longer. Sometimes we loose sight that He DOES care for us.

Our family has been in struggle the last few months. I’m not sure I’d call it a dark time because we have so much to be thankful for, yet the struggle is real. Or perhaps it is a dark time and I know from the past that the ray of Hope is there, even when I can’t see it?

As we struggle we ask God to teach us what it is that he wants us to learn through this and of course, ask Him to allow it to pass quickly. The strange (glorious) thing is, the longer we stay in this struggle the more I am willing to say, “Not my will, but your will, Lord”. I am learning more about trusting Him, not being anxious even though circumstances and common sense are screaming at me. He keeps bringing back to me that not a hair falls from my head that He does not know about and that He’s got this. All I have, all I am, even down to this very breath, is through His grace alone.

Your Dark Days

You may have rebellious children. They shake their fist at you… and at their Heavenly Father. As your heart aches you worry if they will be swept off into eternity without God. You lay awake a night with worry and dread with a constant burning in the pit of your stomach. You ask God where you went wrong. Will your family ever be whole again? It feels like the cloud will never lift.

You may have an unfaithful spouse. As they break their vows and break your heart you are filled anger and the deepest betrayal. You may be doubting your own worth and begging God to fix it. You beg for the future of your children. Your trust in everyone is tested. It feels like the cloud will never lift.

You may have financial trouble. Even though you are willing to work hard and are frugal with your spending there is one hard blow after another. You may endure the critical judgement of others while you go without so many things others take for granted. It feels like the cloud will never lift.

You may have health problems. Even though you desperately want to feel better, to enjoy life, you may be inflicted with serious health issues. The pain may be more than you think you can take. Others don’t understand. Your health issues may drain you physically, emotionally and financially. It feels like the cloud will never lift.

You may be suffering grief. Grief and the holidays are two things that are hard to take together. Holidays are suppose to be joyous times, but grief is a very, very dark cloud. People expect you to ‘just get over it’, but when you are deep in grief it feels like the cloud will never lift.

When you are in a dark place it can feel like you will never come out of it. It is easy to forget that this too shall pass.

Mixed in with all the beautiful gifts of joy from God there also comes struggles and dark days… some are very dark days. All we can do is cling to His promises, seek wisdom and patiently wait.

I know it is hard to muster up the words, “Thank you”, when your heart is aching and your world seems to be crumbling around you. And just because the blogs and social media accounts show that most people have these perfect little lives… remember they too have their struggles, they either choose to keep them quiet for the sake of pride, or they are choosing to focus on the goodness of the Lord.

Remember! Remember the times in the past when He was faithful to deliver you. Remember the ways that He provided even the smallest of things. At the root of giving thanks is remembering what He has done!

No matter how dark your days are right now, there is a God of Light, a God of Hope who does answer prayers. He is a God of compassion that heals hurts and makes straight the paths for His own. Look for His ray of Hope. While you are in the dark stormy day, praise Him for He is worthy.

Even though our circumstances are always changing, He is forever faithful and worthy of our trust and praise.

Rejoice in hope,

be patient in tribulation,

be constant in prayer.

Romans 12:12

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Thanksgiving Day 2011

Our Thanksgiving Day was fairly quiet this year.

 

 

I was pretty bummed because we had no extra people at our table. But the Lord did bring us an opportunity to fill a need for someone else so we were able to cook 2 meals and deliver 1!

While Jeff and I were out delivering the meal the girls set this beautiful table, they did a great job!

Special feasting times are even more memorable when the table is all dressed up!

Josh came for lunch and a nap. ;) Not sure why he is wearing his place card.

Thankfully no strife, no arguments and no hurt feelings (just keeping it real for ya)! Lunch was filled with adult conversation and then the silliness began…

 

 

After we ate everyone took a turn on Santa’s lap to give him our request.

Emma wants a gun…and a bike.

Josh… what he needs we can’t give him. ;) lol…

And then my sweet man was even willing to rub my feet…what a good one he is!

We took naps, watched movies, sat out on the hammock and swing to enjoy the sunshine.

It was a quiet day with sweet memories.

What I like most is that with the passing years and the seasoning of memories

these pictures and this day will become even more special than they are now.

We’ll long for this ‘good ‘ol day’.