Last week our girls were at the Student World View Conference. The speakers were fantastic and the girls came home with so many nuggets of truth! After dealing with rebellion from our older two I do not take for granted that any of our children have a desire to grow spiritually, it is a beautiful thing!!! I know this desire only comes from our Heavenly Father, HE has given them eyes to see, and for that I am truly thankful!
It’s a pretty cool thing when your kids go on trip and they bring you home presents! Emma bought us a Micheal Card CD. He sang and spoke there. They REALLY liked him. Olivia brought home a stack of books. One book was, A Word in Season, by R.J. Rushdoony. This book is EXCELLENT! The following are a few passages that really stuck out to me; it’s all so simple, yet so rich.
Chapter 2 Self-Righteousness
“The self-righteous man sees everything wrong with God, the world, his family and nothing wrong with himself. The self-righteousness man has a revolutionary answer for all problems: everything around him must change, and he himself must stay the same. By definition, he himself is the ultimate standard and judge. The social order must be overturned, his parents despised, and all authority flouted, and he insist on remaining the same: he is very pleased with his own perfection.”
“The saved man seeks to conform himself to the Word of God; the self-righteous man seeks to conform God and the world to his word and will. “
“The world of self-righteousness is a world of anarchy.”
“The destiny of such people is to be washed out of history by God’s judgement.” (Proverbs 30:12)
Self-righteousness is something we all deal with in ourselves and in our children.
A friend and I were talking the other day about her son (and we all have encountered this). He rolled his eyes at her. He claimed he only “looked up”. The heart of the matter is that he was arguing with her and he rolled his eyes. HE was defining what a “roll” was. It’s the same thing as when you tell a child “do not touch this”, and they slowly, gently, bump it. They are defining the ‘touch’.
Here is the deal, YOU as the parent have to be clear to define what a ‘roll’ is, or a ‘touch’ is; just as God defines what is right and wrong. We cannot make up our own rules! We can not put our own twist on what is meant.
He laid out rules for a reason, but more important than the rules, is the heart attitude. He demands first place in our heart, and that we follow the rules (love/obey Him and love/serve others) from a pure heart. He hates pride! He hates self-righteousness. It’s not the roll of the eyes that causes the problem, it’s the heart attitude, we want our child’s heart, just as Christ wants our heart. Once the heart is there obedience comes more easily.
“The world of self-righteousness is a world of anarchy.” Oh so true! When we make up our own rules, stand on our own pride then we have chaos. The reason why there was strife between the mom and son was because with a prideful heart the son was defining the ‘roll of the eyes’. He did not have a heart of love, honor and obedience towards his mother. He was filled with self-righteousness, seeking to overthrow his mother’s authority. We have got to help our children make the connection between their everyday relationships and their relationship with Christ, just as we need to.
This book is definitely worth the read. The chapters are supper short and easy to understand. The book could even be used as a devotional. Give your kids some meat to chew on this year and let them read this…as you read it, talk about it together. It would make great after dinner conversation! Rushdoony does not mix words and gets right to the point!