Disclaimer to save you time sending the hate mail:
- Education is good, we should all be educated and never stop being educated, but let’s not throw out good common sense and a strong work ethic while we are at it.
- Money is good, if you don’t love it. It is a needful tool in dominion work, but let’s not pursue riches over wisdom.
- I know there are seasons of illness and hardships that make life extra hard – this is not about you.
Yes, motherhood is demanding.
Homemaking is challenging.
Being a good wife is tough!
I am there with you, I really am!
But a part of me wants to take the whiny, wimpy woman over my knee and give her a good spanking. (Edit: I am crossing this line out. I did not mean to offend so many with this remark, it was a metaphor, not a literal action.) She reminds me of my 5 year old who has a meltdown when she is told to clear the table after meals insisting “it’s just too hard”.
Are you really serious? Stop waving your fist at God for giving you the responsibilities of the next generation.
Quit expecting someone else to do your work or to make it all easy for you.
Compare your day with the day of a woman 200 years ago! Do you really have it that hard? At least you have indoor plumbing and running water.
Previous generations knew they were building societies. And strong, productive societies take people, hard work and vision. Remove the people, or the hard work, or the vision and your society will cease to exist.
“May our sons in their youth be like plants full grown, our daughters like corner pillars cut for the structure of a palace.” Psalm 144:12
Plants take a lot of work, constant work. Corner pillars take a lot of work, back-breaking work. Without them there is no future. There is no food and there is no palace.
The Two Stumbling Blocks – Hearts and Hands
Our hearts are easily deceived. Our hearts are selfish and want only to be happy… in love with life. We want a taste of heaven here on earth and we will do what we need to to get it. We will even pick our favorite Bible verses to justify it. We just know Jesus wants better for us and we will surround ourselves with people and books to remind us of that.
NO! Jesus wants us busy working! We are Kingdom builders for goodness-sakes!
Can we find joy in our work? YES! But only when the heart is in it. But our heart is usually seeking self first, looking for an easier way, a way that will still ensure that we enter the Gate one day. But often our choices along the way will rob us of blessings, because we want to avoid the work that comes with those blessings.
Homemaking is overwhelming, parenting is even more exhausting…and the thought of ‘loving’ our husbands at the end of the day is almost unbearable.
Why? In-part because the last few generations dropped the ball. Their charge to us was to “go out and find yourself”, “be all you can be” and “get your Masters while you are at it so you can have a more comfortable life and not do the menial work of home”. We have a society that looks down on the skilled laborer. We have forgotten the importance of doing the work of our hands, and with that we’ve lost the backbone of our country and our families.
We set up our homes having no clue how to do anything beyond opening a can of mush. Budgeting, home repairs, home industry, taking care of babies, hospitality, and even the work of relationships… all of it has to start at ground zero because we were not taught HOW to do these things. As children, very little was required of us and it has carried into adulthood. No wonder women are overwhelmed.
And what is even sadder, we are raising up a generation of even weaker women who have a view of marriage and children as nothing but burdensome. As mom and dad complain about the load and the expense of children, and then delegate their responsibilities of work, education and relationships to other people, the children are carrying on their vision, or the lack thereof.
If the Lord has given you a husband and children be faithful!
Raise up your children to be strong and skilled while having a servant heart. They will not get that from you if you are in a tizzy all the time and neglecting your duties to train them. Don’t be responsible for raising up weak and whiny daughters who buckle under the pressure of motherhood.
Yes, I know it is hard!
But why do we think it should be easy?
Be a strong woman so your daughter can be stronger:
- Ask for strength and wisdom from the Giver of your life!
- Clear your calendar of the time-robbing, energy-sucking activities.
- Make a plan of needful skills, then slowly start working your plan.
- Roll up your sleeves and get busy about YOUR work… and your work WILL take your lifetime to complete, just accept it!
- Love your husband, even when he gets on your nerves.
- Make your house a home, no matter how humble it is.
- Train your children to obey and equip them to work and serve.