Comments on: What if You Have a Lazy Husband? Or Wife?

By: JMC

JMC — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 17:05:52 +0000

“because if your husband is not going to lead in that direction, you will need to LIVE IT, and pray that the Holy Spirit will open their hearts to the truth.”

This is great advice, We(I) often feel if he won’t lead then we (I) must. But I must “Live it, because when I am trying to lead I am not living what God asks of me.
Blessings

By: Anna

Anna — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 15:51:01 +0000

Thank you for posting this. It’s something that’s been festering in me. I appreciate your answer and I will apply it. When reading this I was reminded that I hadn’t prayed. That’s right, pray.

By: Kathy

Kathy — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 11:59:56 +0000

Thanks for sharing ladies. I love the Fireproof movie and principles.

Here is another GREAT resource if you are having trouble showing honor or respect:

http://www.reviveourhearts.com/pdf/30DayChallenge.pdf

Love breads love.

Moorea, You are SO RIGHT!
“… bitterness WILL be the result. IT will destroy your kids, not Daddy’s fun.”

By: Moorea

Moorea — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 05:57:19 +0000

p.s. loved your advice Kathy! Your blog is so great! Keep up the good work. )

By: Moorea

Moorea — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 05:55:43 +0000

You could not be MORE right! Although we may have a vision as to how we want our kids raised, we must honor and submit to our husband first. If we do not, bitterness WILL be the result. IT will destroy your kids, not Daddy’s fun. I have seen it firsthand. You can have your kids obey you even if your husband does not reinforce it with them. You need to be consistent with them at all times. Do not rely on Dad to come to your rescue- discipline/ hold the line when he is not there so there is no conflict with him. You will see fruit, especially if you are praying for them. Pray that God would root out your bitterness. Sometimes we have to let our dream die so God can do something greater! {{smile}} I know!

By: Lynn

Lynn — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 05:14:44 +0000

Although I am not married any longer (my husband died 10yrs ago with cancer), I agree completely with your words of advice. One of the hardest things for people to understand is actions speak louder than words. Another suggestion is to try the Love Dare. I’m not sure if you allow other websites to be suggested so if you don’t, please remove the next line or my whole comment if you feel it is inappropriate.

The website for the Official Love Dare Journal is http://lovedare.bhpublishinggroup.com/lovedare/

By: mommagistra

mommagistra — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 04:20:32 +0000

What a wonderful post! I hope it’s okay to suggest, look at the book “The Power of a Praying Wife.” It has wonderful prayers on so many areas that affect the lives of our marriages. If something is not right, pray and leave it in God’s hands to make the change – most often, I have found that God has worked things out better than I could ever have imagined. Also, possibly use this as a teachable moment with our children on what to look for in a spouse. (Again, don’t point out the negative in our own spouses, but use what the Bible says as a guide, maybe using a charater study.)

By: trisha

trisha — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 03:54:24 +0000

You are so right! God has worked miracles in my marriage in just that way. He works through us to do his will. Sometimes I slip and have my ‘bad’ moments but I usually know right away what I have done/said wrong because it’s always clear that when I do things Gods way, I get a better response from my husband but when I have a bad attitude, I get a negative response from my husband and he gets worse. The bible says that husbands can be won over without words by the behavior of their wives. The bible doesn’t lie! God doesn’t lie! My marriage is proof of this truth. It gets better every day!

By: Melissa

Melissa — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 02:08:35 +0000

Good Kathy…I fight against trying to compare our marriage to others. That is a very quick tool of Satan…