The Husband Wife Relationship

July 10, 2009

When you become a blogger and/or have an internet based business it is very easy to become totally consumed with time in front of the computer. Even when you are on vacation you can take your work with you via the laptop. Life can quickly get out of balance even doing GOOD THINGS.

I know I have not posted much this week, my girls are out of town with my mother for a couple weeks which means Jeff and I have some alone time, with the exception of Josh running in and out. I keep having this nagging feeling that I need to blog something…anything. Which means that my blogging is owning me, rather than me owning the blog.

Jeff and I have been married almost 24 years and have had children since day one (Jeff had custody of his daughter ). We homeschool and have always had extra kids in our home for reason or another (up until a few years ago), so there really has never been a time just for the two of us.

As much as I LOVE AND MISS my girls, I have really enjoyed focusing on being a wife this week. Olivia and Emma are such great homemakers themselves that they do a lot of the cooking and things around the house, which is GREAT, but this week it has been 100% my responsibility and I have really enjoyed it.

Because so much of our lives are poured into training our children for adulthood, we sometimes forget that the husband wife relationship really is more important than the Mom and Dad responsibilities. Now being a Mom and Dad does take more hours of the day, but being husband and wife is more of a priority. Perhaps parenting is more of quantity, but marriage is more quality? 

It’s all about priorities and balance, and when life is full you can easily get lost in the details of life. When you enjoy life and want to accomplish so much, it is difficult to draw back and be still. Throw in some heartache and struggles and you can forget what you REAL priorities are!

While Jeff has been at work this week I have taken a lot of time to do the things for him that get pushed down on my priority list. I have planned his favorite meals for him and taken care of some neglected areas in the house. I have looked forward to him coming home and have met him refreshed, rather than busy and distracted. Granted when my kids get home it won’t be this easy to focus on my husband, but I hope I will remember that I am first and foremost a wife, everything else will be OK if I can do that first.

What our kids need to see the most in us is that loving, respectful relationship between mom and dad. When they are secure in that it gives them stability to stand on, which creates confidence.

A couple weeks ago Emma and I were riding in the car together listening to the radio, this country song came on and she said, 

"This song makes me think of you and Dad."  Ahhhhhh , my heart just melted. She knows that her mom and dad love each other! As many times as we fail in our parenting I hope they will always be secure in the fact that we really do love each other…and it just keeps getting better!!!!!!!!!!!

All that said, I do not look forward to having an empty nest. I love a full house, I love the noise and drama of everyday life. Our prayer is that our children will marry and live close by so we can be grandparents of MANY, MANY grandchildren…and continue to build the Kingdom together has a husband and wife.

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