I’ve been working on my new book (I still haven’t decided on a title), and I wanted to share a part of one of the chapters. I’d love to hear some feedback in the comment section.
Teach Them to Be Problem Solvers
I am convinced that we expect too little from our children. It hasn’t been that long ago that young men, even at the age of 12 were manning ships and that 16 year olds were heading to the prairies to establish homes and families in new country.
Why was it common for young people to take on such big responsibilities and accomplish so much? It was because they had to. They had challenging circumstances, there was no adolescences and there was no such thing has prolonged adolescences.
Our prosperity and an institutionalize form of education as fostered a culture of slackers that have no ambition nor critical thinking skills. We have got to change that!
Don’t make things too easy for them. If they want a certain item or to go to a function give them opportunities to be earning the money. Children need to know at a young age that everything cost money, and it is a mark of maturity to prove their responsibility to earn it.
If you tell a child he can not have a new bike unless he earns the money for it, watch him become an instant entrepreneur! If he does not want to earn it, then it was not important enough to him.
This is not to say you should never give them things. Gifts are good, but showering them with every want only harms them.
Being a problem solver does not apply only to money situations:
- If a situation arises at home let them try to figure out a way to make it work.
- If something breaks, let them figure out how to fix it.
- If there is a conflict with a sibling let them try to resolve it first before you intercede.
- Let them learn, let them think, let them create!
It is almost always easier and faster to just handle a situation yourself, but refrain from always doing so. Let them struggle and learn. This takes more time of your day but you are equipping them with critical thinking skills they need for everyday adult life!
Start with simple things when they are young and slowly increase their responsibility in being a problem solver. The problem solvers are the leaders, the problem solvers are the ones that invent and create. They are the ones that reject the victim mentality and get things done!
Is your house full of problem solvers or mooches that want to be served?