Preparing for ???
September 10, 2008
In our quest to raise our children to meet their full potential, I think we tend to get confused about what we are supposed to be accomplishing. While listening to a sermon recently the pastor made this comment:
"We spend a lions-share of our time preparing our children for college, but little time preparing them for marriage." V. Baucham
That is so true!
College degrees are needful for some, but not for everyone. Even those with college degrees will need to know how to manage their home and other belongings, but how much time do most parents send making that a priority?
More important than degrees or skills is the ability to live as a family, belong to a church, and live in communities peacefully; this takes a lot of training in relationships! It is against our flesh to put others first, to ask for forgiveness or grant forgiveness to the offender, and that is why we need to make that a major part of our child training.
We have this mentality that as long as our kids get good grades and get a college education everything will be OK. In actuality, a college degree has little (if anything) to do with being successful in life and living peacefully with people around us.
When our children are grown will they know how to deny themselves and make wise decisions that benefit their family as a whole, or will they still be running off to do their own thing? Will they know that their life will consist of giving of themselves constantly, or do they really believe it is all about 'them'?
Are we teaching them how to have good relationships with those around them? If you can get along with all of the people in your house you'll be able to get along with just about anyone in life.
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Comments (2)
I totaly agree. If we have no character it benefits us little. I know from first hand experience that training for an education rather than for a life time of relationships has a bad result. I am teaching them life skills and relationships are more important than education. I was an A student at college, when I left I knew nothing of the real world so God, friends and church have taught me what really counts.
In 10 years will it matter more if a child has an excellence in their school work or a good friend in a brother?
Really good reminder! I felt convicted when I read that if you can get along with everyone in your home, you’ll be able to get along with almost anyone in life. We have a little too much sibling fighting going on lately and need to address it.
Blessings,
Courtney