It is human nature, the more you give the more they expect and even demand.
A child that is rarely told no will usually grow into an ungrateful and self-centered adult.
The road to maturity is paved with lessons of self-control.
In a way we live in a child-centered culture. Most people will only have a couple of kids so that they can give them everything they want…so they can be all that they can be.
All around us are people who lack self-control, who honestly believe that they deserve what they want, when they want it.
Do your kids a favor and tell them “no” often.
The sooner they can gracefully handle disappointment the better. The sooner they understand that they are here to serve and not be served the better.
At the core of being able to accept a no gracefully is self control.
A few things to keep in mind:
- Teach children at a very early age not pout when they are told no.
- Don’t always give reasons for why you are saying no.
- Just because something is available does not mean they may have it.
- Set limits.
- Flexibility is important.
A man without self-control is like a city broken
into and left without walls.
Teaching your children that how they respond to situations is key to learning how to accept God’s will in a difficult and even painful provenience.
Whether it be with possessions, time, apatite, attitude or thoughts, self control, a denying of the flesh, is essential for a successful and victorious life.
Childhood is the training ground for adulthood.