”When our daughters are graceful and beautiful both in body and mind are then polished after the likeness of a beautiful palace. When we see our daughters well-established and stayed with wisdom and discretion, as cornerstones are fastened in the building – when we see them by faith united to Christ, as the chief cornerstone, adorned with the graces of God’s Spirit, which are the polishing of that which is naturally rough, and become women professing godliness when we see them purified and consecrated to God as living temples, we think ourselves happy in them.” Matthew Henry
I love where he says. ” … polishing that which is naturally rough.”
There are two applications here, one spiritual and one practical. Of course, only the Holy Spirit can draw and purify one’s heart, but then there is the practical application.
How does this “polishing” happen? Sanctification. This happens in children by God’s grace through diligent parents who will love and train their children, not only in spiritual matters but in practical, useful matters.
Women, young and old, are not to be just beautiful, but they are to serve a very important part in the family household and the household of God. Women are the ones that hold the home together, we are to manage our homes (Titus 2). Only a well skilled woman who embraces her God-given purpose can be a pillar. Show me a woman that can not:
- balance a check book
- manage time
- care for the least of these
- reach out to the needy
and I’ll show you a woman that has not been polished for service.
Show me a women that is always on the go away from home, then I will show you a home that is almost always in chaos.
It takes skills, time and love to manage a home well, have strong relationships and still be able to reach out to the needy.
What good is a pillar if it is not fastened to the building? What good is a pillar if is cracked and weak and sways with the wind? It will not serve it’s purpose. We want our daughters to be “well-established and stayed with wisdom and discretion.” The best way to encourage that is for us moms to live it out with contentment and joy.
Will your daughters be polished pillars or will they crumble into a pile under the weight of the world?
Parents, in a spirit of love, polish your daughters, take part in sanctifying their hearts for service, not selfishness! Be diligent that they will be polished, skilled for their good works. May they, and we, be able to serve as we are adorned with the graces of God’s Spirit.