Cakes and Marriage Thoughts
November 27, 2010
I love making wedding cakes and catering (although it is high pressure and every time I say I’m not doing this again). I love going to weddings. As I mature in my faith the marriage ceremony becomes more and more precious to me. I am realizing what it is to be the Bride of Christ and His selfless love for me.
Today’s wedding was for a gentleman whose wife died from cancer last year. Some may think that is too soon after a death, but I think differently.
First, as Christians our life is to be lived for the glory of God, not for self satisfaction.
Yes, I want my husband to mourn me, to grieve for me deeply, and I have no doubt he would, but I also would want him to press on, to continue to live a life that brings God glory. There is much work to be done and life to be enjoyed, for that he would most likely need a helper and companion. I would hope that the Lord would bring him one. After all, I will be seated at the wedding table with our Lord.
Second, none of us are indispensable.
We are all brothers and sisters, given to live as a family to carry out the commands of Christ here on earth. I think of family life in earlier days before we became such a materialistic, arrogant and selfish society. People married young and out of necessity to be able to survive and do their work; they understood that it was not about the individual, but rather about their future generations and prosperity (spiritually and materially).
Today people put off getting married as long as they can so they can ‘enjoy life’ and not get ‘tied down’. What a shame! To have the attitude that “I don’t need a man (or vise-versa)” is to miss out on experiencing the glory of such a beautiful (and yes, hard) relationship that Christ gave us to reflect His marriage to us.
Last, to have a Christ centered marriage is probably the closest thing to heaven on this side of heaven it self.
Marriage is tough, it is A LOT of sacrifice, but so is the Christian life. It is not about making sure we are happy, but rather that we seek to do the Father’s will and not our own; and from that comes security, blessings, and LOVE.
The best thing we can do for our family is to work at having a good marriage. The greatest mission field is to restore marriage and family life the way God said it should be, so that we can share the GOOD NEWS with others…with everyone!
As we enter into this busy, busy holiday season make sure you plan special time for your spouse… this brings glory to God!
This cake was all chocolate with a buttercream icing.
The Cake Decorating DVD is a separate website just for my Cake Decorating DVD.
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Comments (5)
Beautiful cake, my friend!
I wholeheartedly agree with you on remarriage after the death of a spouse. I have often heard that those who were the most in love and happiest want to get remarried again after their spouse dies. I see it as a compliment to the spouse who is now with the LORD. When children are involved, it is such a blessing to have a family where a Mom/wife and a Dad/husband can be there again in the home…..glorifying the LORD in their relationships as they work to knit their hearts to each other and the LORD.
I think I will go hug my husband……
What a great post Mom!
A very similar situation happened in my family. My mother died from cancer in January of 1987. My father remarried in April of 1988. There were 3 of us children and my step-mother had 2. Big blended family and a lot of changes for all of us. My father and step-mother were severely criticized by a lot of people, mostly family members and there was a huge rift in the family for a very long time. I had no problem with my father getting re-married. His love for his new wife did not diminish the love he had for my mother. They are two separate relationships.
Thank you for posting your message.
My Uncle had a wonderful marriage, he also go married a year after his wife died. The next marriage lasted many years too.
Lovely cake! Great points on marriage by you and the other commentors.