4 Ways to Ruin Your Son

ruin your son


“If you want to ruin your son,

  1. never let him know a hardship.
  2. When he is a child carry him in your arms, when he becomes a youth still dandle him, and when he becomes a man still dry-nurse him, and you will succeed in producing an arrant fool.
  3. If you want to prevent his being made useful in the world, guard him from every kind of toil. Do not suffer him to struggle. Wipe the sweat from his dainty brow and say, “Dear child, thou shalt never have another task so arduous.?
  4. Pity him when he ought to be punished; supply all his wishes, avert all disappointments, prevent all troubles, and you will surely tutor him to be a reprobate and to break your heart.


put him where he must work,

expose him to difficulties,

purposely throw him into peril,

and in this way you shall make him a man, and when he comes to do man’s work and to bear man’s trial, he shall be fit for either.

— Charles Spurgeon

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Here are some excellent resources to help you instill good character and a strong work ethic in your children.

Created for Work: Practical Insights for Young Men

This is an excellent book that will encourage a good work ethic. It is geared for boys but also applies to girls.

Boyhood and Beyond: Practical Wisdom for Becoming a Man

This book contains short stories, each teaching a moral, to help you teach your son what it means to be a man. Each story is followed by a few questions that get right to the point.

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I believe in bonding as a child. I carry my 4 yr old as a treat for him. He misses my lap. I also have a 2 yr old and a 5month old. He doesn’t get to be carried often. And there is no room for pitty in my house. Pitty is was spoils them.

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